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The Lost Secret

Posted by tdomf_b1c33

Friday, July 30th, 2010

I have a secret…

Wasn’t that a great way to start this article? The Secret by Rhonda Byrne was number 2 on USA Today’s bestseller list, 2007.

Wasn’t that a fabulous title for a book? It made her millions. Did it make you millions? Thousands? Pennies?

I haven’t read the book, but many did.

I researched the book and learned the secret: the law of attraction. This ancient secret reminded me of Dan Brown’s new book–another book I haven’t read.

So I researched again. And there, at oneminutebookreviews.wordpress.com, is the same connection.

To quote her page that quotes the book: Langdon realizes as he listens to Katherine: “Human thought can literally transform the world.”

What does this mean? I think they made a movie out of this, The Men Who Stare at Goats.

I’m thinking about a better job and after a hundred applications, I’m still thinking obsessively about being a millionaire. I’ve started to spend fifty dollars at the vending machines a week, on a low hourly income. I know I’m a millionaire. I play monopoly imperiously with children at work, and at the same time, I’m judicious enough to let the little ones win sometimes.

I’m positive,

I’m skinny,

I’m smart,

I have a secret.

I’m the poorest millionaire.

Not another chess article Jimmie!

Posted by tdomf_b1c33

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

The reason I like chess is a multi part answer. I’m an administrative assistant. As one, there is no ladder, if you will, to climb to the top of the organization. The metaphor of ‘up’ in English means progress and success. With progress and succes, that means I change in income, role, and education.

Chess is a game that gives you a rating. 1200 is considered beginner and peaks at the world’s best of 2800 roughly. In between the two numbers people are climbing the ladder to find themselves progessing and succeeding. To stay a 1200 player year after year says that ladder is laying on the ground, and many people may be happy or simply content walking one rung at a time towards death.

Rather, I see my life as a good book with it’s peaks and valleys of climaxes, hopefully moving higher and stronger towards the end.

This article is putting me in a bad mood…or is it the phone at work, blaring in my left ear: “Jimmie, come back to reality, a patron needs your wonderful customer service!”

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh!!!! I’m still a 1200 player.

Careful, Genius at Work

Posted by tdomf_b1c33

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

http://www.gladwell.com/2008/2008_10_20_a_latebloomers.html

Even if you don’t read it, the article speaks of precocity versus late bloomers, and mixes it with the success story of Ben as an author. You can replace writer with any job, and the article reads the same: breaking free from the routine paths of the middle class (lawyer, doctor, teacher, consultant) and starting something unique, such as writing or starting a company.

One of my questions is if we bloom late, how do we ever know if we’re going to bloom? How many people have succeeded after death? There is Vincent Van Gogh, to name a small example.

This seems like a miserable path to suffer through a life that should be full of happiness. What brings people to persist and continue in the search of a goal if the evanescent nature gives winning the lottery a hopeful ring to it?

Ben, the man of the article, on the contrary, probably enjoyed his life while he pursued a literary career. The process, which took him eighteen years before his big break, had to have been enjoyable enough for him to continue writing each and every day. How else could he have done it? I’ve heard of delayed gratification, but this is some serious patience.

With most people, and if that is to broad, at least I know waiting for a burger gets to be too long. However, to play devil’s advocate, if I look at it from a different angle, say Ben’s, he could ask me how I patiently waited out eighteen years at an adminstrative job. Ah…that hurts Ben.

Eighteen years. What is the bottom line if we’ll never know. Do something that we love? Does it fritter away to the basic concept of Republicans and 1950 cliche father’s? I don’t want to say it, but it’s said to be hard work. Pull your self up by the boot straps. Have some intestinal fortitute. Tough it out. Have some balls. Be a man. Grow some thick skin. Early bird gets the worm.

There are a million phrases in every language for hardwork.

How do you know if you’re a late bloomer? I don’t know, but I’ll leave you with my father’s advice: do what you enjoy, and you’ll hardly work a day in your life.

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INTEVIEW WITH iguide.traveler FOUNDER (PART I)

Posted by Andrew_Cox

Tuesday, July 27th, 2010

This is part 1 of an interview we did with the founder of iguide.traveler.  He requested his identity be kept secret because when he isn’t running his site, he is doing top-secret work for the government.  Just kidding.  Maybe.  Check out his website here: http://iguide.travel/

How did you get into this?

After I graduated college I got a government job.  It was decent pay, low maintenance and I had a little more freedom than a typical 9-5.

But I didn’t like the work and saved money for 3 years.  After I quit, I traveled.

After I returned to the U.S. I was an assistant teacher for a year while taking classes to become a teacher but I decided it wasn’t for me.

On starting his own website:

It takes a lot of work.  You need the idea and the execution.

It’s not about creating a completely new idea, its taking an existing idea and making it better.

My first website helped organizations customize their own pages where they could engage consumers in e-commerce.  I didn’t like marketing and pushing products on others though so I tossed a lot of ideas around just trying to figure out what I could do.

I enjoy travel and thought about how I could improve on existing travel sites so in April of 2007 I started iguide.

When I started, I just put up as much content as possible.  Then I started filtering to increase the quality and make sure the image and brand were strong as opposed to simply putting anything and everything on the site and then choosing the best stuff later.  It’s way more efficient to cull the best stuff from the beginning.  Quality always trumps quantity.

What does a typical workday look like for you?

The first year was fun because I was creating and doing something new.  The second and third years were hard because I was constantly working.  My life was jogging, sleeping and working.  I’d wake up and be thinking about the site immediately.

I made no money at first.  Then after the first year I made maybe $2K.  By the third year it was $30K and after that it was $100K.

In the beginning I was solely focused on making money but now I’m more interested in doing something good.

I still have to update the site, cash checks, and send invoices but for the most part it runs itself now.   The biggest thing is cashing checks.

I wake up naturally and I start working.  It actually isn’t that fun.  Most of my time is spent on web development.  It sucks when I try to force something to happen.  It’s like working for someone else at that point.

If I let the innovations drive it everyday then I can make if fun again.  If it’s a project with a challenge it’s much more fun and the quality of the work is much better.  I just can’t force it.  It’s more important to be learning than just working.

There was a point when I was in doubt and I thought I didn’t know what I was doing or what I was going to do.  It was October ‘08 and the financial crisis really set in and I was losing revenue and people weren’t visiting the site.

I naturally experimented a lot and I guess it just panned out.  I never planning on make a lot of money.

I mostly work at home.  I did the whole coffee shop thing for a while but it’s just easier to do my work at home.  It does get lonely.  I don’t get to go to an office and have friends there and get the social aspect of working.  That is something most people don’t think about.

I constantly wonder if I’m using the right advertisers.  Is the information still valuable to people?  Once people started emailing complaints about the site it was great because it meant people cared enough to comment and wanted it to improve.

You seem a bit hostile towards corporations.

The structure of work in the U.S. is more about jumping through hoops and navigating the politics of the organization.  I almost went to grad school and naively thought it would be great but as I applied and went though the interview process I realized it was no different and didn’t even want to bother starting the program.

I was a marketing major in undergrad.  I learned in school that it was up to the consumer to decide what they want to purchase but that isn’t true.  Businesses push their products on consumers even if they are unnecessary.  You wouldn’t believe some of the tactics they use to make money.

We need fewer products in the world, not more.    Advertisers use ecology, psychology and marketing magic to trick consumers.   For instance, why are we talking about getting cars with 60 miles a gallon?  We can’t keep building roads and constantly expanding cities.  If we have learned anything in the last two years it is that constant growth isn’t feasible.  We should be asking what comes after the car.

What is your current focus for the site?

I’m trying to grow the site and do it responsibly and add multiple languages.

I try to pull in the top quality content.  I check everything for bugs and make sure the articles and pictures are the highest quality.

I sometimes wonder if I should add employees?  Probably, within a year, but I want to make sure I’m ready.  I’m a visionary.  I have good ideas.  I’m not a leader and I’m not a perfect programmer.

I ask myself all the time how should I spend my time because its getting to the point where I might be able to spend more of it doing something else.  Maybe spend half the year working and the other half traveling.

I’d like to spend my time working on a greater world problem.  Maybe in a few years do something positive to make a difference in people’s lives.

Thank you for sharing some of your story with us.  Stay tuned for Part II coming soon!

The Red Planet

Posted by Andrew_Cox

Tuesday, July 27th, 2010

http://jmars.mars.asu.edu/maps/oldindex.php

This is the most extensive map of the planet Mars created to date.  For the non-scientist it might not be that interesting after looking at a few different screen shots but it’s pretty amazing that we are able to map out another planet.  NASA wants as many people contributing to continuously update the maps and also improve them.  More information can be learned here:

http://asunews.asu.edu/20100723_marsmap

What is Life without Chess?

Posted by tdomf_b1c33

Monday, July 26th, 2010

Let’s begin with chess. After far too many chess games, I realized it was tactics; tatics is what matters, more than openings, endings, etc. There are free sites, such as chess tactics server and chesstempo, where you can play situations asking you to find the best tactical move. This practice teaches you pins, skewers, forks, double attacks, and other names for moves that takes advantage of the current situation.

And now life: what is the most important aspect of life. At one point I had asked my girlfriend what the most important quality a person can have to suceed in corporate, and she answered in one word–likeable. This corresponds to what to the chair of a college department once responded when I asked what the most important quality is when hiring–people have to like you. Reflecting on such answers, this seems true.

For one, there will be plenty of people with the skills to fill the role, and in fact, if there is a more qualified person, the more likeable person may get the job. Though, this isn’t always the case, since there are examples of a-holes getting the job or girl or education or favor when it doesn’t seem that person is likeable. How does that happen?

I’ve also heard a bit of wisdom that not everyone will like you. So that person who we thought didn’t deserve that something will have his or her critics, but at the same time he or she will also have his or her fans. For everyone who hates Broc Lesnar, there is always Dana and his investors who like Broc each and everytime he draws fifty or sixty out of your pocket because you need to see a freak of nature surprise you with his agile hulkiness.

What if we asked the bible about importance. When Jesus was asked to sum up his profession (I call it profession, but interpret it as you like), he responded with Mathew 10:10, to love your God with everything you got, and others as you love yourself. In a way, I interpret this as we need to be loving, otherwise people won’t like you, and if people don’t like you, you won’t have people who will like you enough to give you what you want or need.

If each and every day you are problem solving to get the resources you need, then the most important thing in this life is to get people to like you. The real truth I’m getting at is if chess is all about tactics, and chess is essential to life, then we must be tactful with people.

Coffee at work

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Wednesday, April 14th, 2010

There are moments when socially I’m feeling awkward. At lunch today, in the break room, I heated up my pizza while the coffee lady brewed a new pot of coffee. Three co-workers who I don’t know very well sat and chatted. The coversation began over the coffee, between me and the coffee-making-lady. Since I didn’t know her really well, observational remarks are usually safe.

“New coffee?” I half ironically/truthfully said. I had to probe the matter with humor, but at the same time with honesty to learn if a secret brew was being made.

“I can’t drink the other stuff,” she said.

First, I was incredulous: was I suppose to tolerate this behavior that she wasn’t going to tell anyone; and here she was exerting her power to suckle milk and honey, while the peons drink coffee made from toxic corporate water and the left over grounds of a board meeting. (Okay it isn’t that bad, but the coffee isn’t that great either).

“When are we getting the new stuff?” I asked to keep the coversation neutral but still informative.

She opens the cupboard and my loins shrivel.

“Looks like we have a few more boxes left,” I observe, dejected, depressed.

“We’re still trying to cut expenses elsewhere, spoons, napkins…to justify new coffee,” she said.

“Why don’t we bring our own utinsels?” I said. I smiled immediately afterwards to show my playful attitude, but I really wanted to know the answer. I was ready to sacrfice a few seconds of my break with her, because God knows we have made sacrifices for knowledge in the past.

She smiled coyly, and I suddenly saw new undertones. Immediately I decide THAT would need road blocks, asap. A forty year old who reads erotic novels shouldn’t action her fantasy. (Also, who shares that they read erotic novels at work to a person 20 years their junior. And she had made it as a passing comment as if it didn’t mean much. O la de da, I maturbate with a cucumber. Somethings are left unsaid at work.)

“No we won’t get it, too soon, at least until this junk is gone,” she said and kicked a purple logo. “But I’m going to put a label on this batch that says ‘yum’.” Her eyes flared up and she leaned towards me. She was excited, obviously.

The conversation lulled, as I heated up my pizza and she sat down for the secret coffee to finish. But she wasn’t done with me yet.

“We’re getting power saving microwaves.”

“What does that mean,” I quickly said, to show I was listening.

“To save electricity.”

Uh, was my question that dumb. But I noticed the two women sitting at the table had stopped talking. They looked at each other as if they shared a secret–they were eaves dropping. Not only that, but mocking the conversation we were having. Why else would they take such an interest in a dull conversation other than to make fun of it. First they don’t know me that well, so it had to do with females super senses. They were seeing undertones, understones I wanted to prevent. Dammit. I needed to leave asap.

“What do others think of the new coffee,” I asked kind of glancing at my amorous coffee lover and the six new ears.”

The coffee lover went straight to their table and engaged them.

That was my cue. I beelined to my cubicle, happy and energetic to see the four dingy walls, more so than I was at eight o’clock this morning.

website design

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Monday, April 12th, 2010

Observation: websites are leaning towards the google standard for website layout. That is put everything in the middle of the page with little to nothing else on the page. This is the next step in evolution of website layout. The first creaters didn’t know what to put on a webpage but, through time, the effective design is to be simple. The importance of the webpage, that reason the person goes to the page for, should be easily seen and accessed. That means, the viewer can quickly understand the fuction or many functions of the page. When I go to dictionary.com, with one look, I intuitely know how to use it. Is this true? Comments?

What’s Going on Here?!

Posted by Andrew_Cox

Sunday, February 14th, 2010

Written by: Howard Cox

Okay, let’s check today’s blotter. The sports scene has been more than a little tense lately, sort of like the best episodes of the old Hill Street Blues, crammed with felonius assaults, sexual assaults, murderous assaults, indignities and incivilities without number, visited not by the designated dregs of society, but by icons of our sports culture.

To recap: we have the murder of the pregnant girl friend of pro footballer Rae Carruth; the suspicion of another pro, Ray Lewis, in two murders; the clubbing of a pro hockey player which resulted in a fracture of the clubee’s skull; rape charges involving a 17-year old levied against Green Bay Packer Mark Chmura; multiple charges of physical assault, one documented on video tape, levied against Indiana University basketball coach, Bobby Knight, plus assorted deaths in auto accidents, some of which, predictably, involved liquor and/or drugs; all of which, not surprisingly, involved immature, bordering on juvenile, judgment.

What’s going on here?
Well, nothing really new, to begin with. What we have is a sports culture cresting atop an exponential growth fueled by the demand for programming, or content, as it is now known, by the broadcast and cable television industry. The mushrooming explosion of sports on TV has resulted in untold riches to the deliverers, as they are now called, and to the owners, who feed their outsize egos by showcasing a sports team as the jewel of their conglomerate holdings. And because there are more jobs than there are players who can adequately fill them, player salaries run very high. More than high salaries, players are often coveted at early ages, some say just past puberty, and rules are ignored or waived.

And when athletes live outside the rules, there should be little wonder when social aberrations occur.

It has been ever thus, which, to some, may come as news. To wit: the mysterious disappearance of Ed Delahanty, a baseball legend in his time, from a train crossing the Niagra River just above the Falls, one night in 1897; the admission of murder, even the boasting of it, by Ty Cobb, a baseball icon in the first quarter of the last century; the connection of Roaring 20’s heavyweight champion Jack Dempsey’s name to a murder in a Colorado gold field; the infamous Black Sox Scandal following the 1919 World Series; and the total lack of social inhibitions by the man credited with saving baseball in the aftermath of the Black Sox fiasco, the one and only Babe Ruth. Babe’s off the field didoes were treated with awe, just like his amazing home runs. The social disease Ruth contracted was treated with silence. Because of the temper of the time, Bill Tilden, the great international tennis champion, kept his sexual preferences in the closet.
The reality is that, starting with ancient Greek Oympians, through young David, who, although badly outweighed, showed a pretty good arm and pinpoint control, to the gladiators who are depicted in the current movie, athletes have always be given special treatment. The same public that pays dearly to see athletes in action on the field, usually gives them a free pass for their actions off it.

This piece started with a reference to an old TV show, Hill Street Blues. It’ll end with a quote from one of its best characters, Sgt. Phil Esterhaus. Phil always ended his briefings with, “Oh, yeah. Remember: let’s be careful out there!” Good advice for cops. For athletes, too.

Baptist Missionary: Beat this human pilferers in Haiti

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Friday, February 5th, 2010

Real life stories of a missionary: The underground newsletter of a missioary because when I mean shit I don’t want to say crap…

Qué onda cabrones y putas? I won’t hold back from the vulgar, the sinful, and the downright un PC joking. Well then, now that we’re on the same page, here is the dirty side of Mexico that the cute little Baptist ladies won’t be reading. When I send out the “real newsletter” the real fun starts here.

So this guy named Enrique, who fits the category of a guy-who-I-can-be-vulgar-with, suffers from a birth defect to his right leg and arm–now don’t worry I won’t make fun of his differently-able-ness, I just call him Shrek when we’re together at work. He likes teaching me slang. (Actually, the gardener at my house is the real professor, who is older and wiser.) Moreover, the term Shrek fits into the larger banter between us; the recent theme has been homosexuality with an ever increasing, unnerving vibe I have received from the group of men I work with–there is always some truth to a joke. What can we call someone besides a Rasputin?
Puto, Puñal, homosexual, maricón, gey, mano caído…
Here is a short list of ways to express or call someone homosexual, along with definitions and origins from my research, and Pinche because, why not throw in another word for fuck.

Puta/o: adjective or noun to mean whore or cool
Origin: abbreviation of prostitute (source is BBC, of all places)
Pinche: an adjective to show emphasis but essentially means fuck.
Origin: pincho in Spain is a skewer or a type of appetizer, a piece of bread with food on top. Also a pincho is a shish kabob. Somehow, using some knowledge from a scholarly article, it named a cooking assistant. Then it came to mean fuck. Haha. Dirty work means dirty words.
Mano caído: an expression to mean gay. It literally means . Ya know, hey girl!
Puñal: a homosexual
Origin: The word literally is dagger. Supposedly when you turn your back, a gay guy will stick you like a killer would with is dagger.
Maricón: a homosexual but is more like faggot in English.
Origin: This one I’ll have to trust Wikepedia since I’m tired, but I think it’s a nice explanation—although, it might be wrong. María, a girl’s name, in the diminutive form is marica but I don’t find any support for this. Then a femmy guy is a Maricón.

Now, I love Enrique, and you would think of homosexual type of love after reading above but he is a genuine guy, willing to put up with my broken Spanish slang in order to gently correct. What a nice guy.
Now it’s time for…a real dirt-ass-life story of a Missionary.
And not to shift gears, I had a queer experience the other day with a sacerdote, a catholic priest. Sunday the ninth of September I met Elmer. He visits Sister Maria once in a while. (I should explain that I live in DDICC, an abbreviation for something ridiculous. It’s dick.com if you’re curious). It used to be a college, and now hosts foreign delegations to engage in social analysis; a Dominican sister leads it, Maria. )
So the story…Elmer came over, sat down next to me, and wanted to help me practice my Spanish. He was very nice, courteous, and welcoming. I found he was too welcuming a week later. But, that Sunday we went to Rush Hour 3, got some ice cream and visited his seminary. I thought he was giving me a cultural tour of Cuernavaca. That was that. Then we planned a visit to his parish where he was fulfilling his last step in seminary, his social practicum. What a great idea, to get to see Mexico from a different perspective!
Next Friday he texted me. He was waiting at DDICC with Sister Maria. But since I had a pachanga, a party, I was late. Fortunately, he had to run his sister somewhere so he left for awhile and in the meantime I watched the Yankees come from behind to beat the Red Soxs. He came back at eleven and wanted to hang out. He doesn’t speak a word of English, so I was trying to be polite and tell him that I was tired and wanted to go to bed. Somehow he though I wanted to stay up and drink because he had asked me if I like to party and I must have responded too enthusiastically because he thought I meant at that moment. So we left to get a six pack, which was a bad idea.
On the way back, while walking down the road, he put his arm around me. I have no qualms with a friend touching another friend because we all have THAT friend. I didn’t know Elmer that well and it wasn’t a manly weighty arm around me accompanied with body signals that he was trying to indicate comradery; it was a delicate squeeze of my shoulder for three blocks. I was relieved to get back and to shrug off his arm–or his feeler if you will.
The next weird part was deciding where to drink. Normally people drink on the patio or in the kitchen at DDICC, but he wanted to drink in the room. Oh, and he wanted to hide the beer from Maria, which is weird since he knows that she drinks more beer than anyone. Why hide the fact? Anyways, he wanted to drink in his room, so I get my laptop to listen to some tunes. As I reflect on the causes of each new change in action, Elmer utilized my areas of interest to string me along to his room. First it was beer, because I can’t pass up liquor. Then it was asking me to show him some music I like.
So…I downloaded Mano Chao for him onto my zip drive (I bet he hates mano chao!). As I downloaded it he was holding my shoulders from behind while I sat in the chair at his desk. I stood up to indicate I was done and to move his hands away. He moved to his bed with his computer and downloaded the music. I came over because he took a lot of time, which may have been a ploy to get me to his bed–and speaking of bed, he had came with me to my room to get the computer with me. While we were there, in my room earlier, he had asked me if those clothes that I keep on a chair were my Pj’s. I said no so he asked me if I sleep in my boxers. Weird! I don’t ask other men what they sleep in.
So we are on his bed—back to the action. We figure we can legally share Itunes only when he was connected to the net. We set the computers aside and take up a conversation about the Catholic Church with a beer in hand—the only way it can be done in my opinion. He asked me what I think about it. Earlier that night, sister Maria had told me he might try to covert me, but she said this in a joking manner that indicated a sliver of truth. As we know, all jokes have some truth. In general though, Maria and he didn’t agree because he was conservative.
So we were on he bed talking, and I worked on my Spanish while he worked on getting me to bed. I went to shut my computer off because I am getting tired. He comes over, stands behind me, puts his arms around me and started stroking the hair on my right arm. He stroked so delicately! My harassment o-meter shot through the roof and my uncomfortable o-meter cracked as he sought my butt. I stood up and said, “I am going to my bed.”
Digressing again, he had asked me to sleep in his room, while I was getting my porno filled computer. I shrugged it off as if I didn’t actually hear him ask me to sleep in his room. Well, of course, chuckle chuckle, he does have another bed, and he has only lived with men for the last four years so it’s not unreasonable that it was a friendly gesture.
But…this is the kicker, he asked again as I am leaving, if I would sleep in his bed. I don’t know about you all, even if I don’t understand the culture in terms of the normal touching between men and sleeping together as friends, I decided to decline out of feeling a little weird on our second date.
On the one handjob, for the first time in my life I knew what it was like to be in fear of my body being violated, since for the most part, I lived a relatively sexual harassment free life as a male. On the other blowjob, Elmer wanted to be the glue, and me to be the paper. Pinche guey!
You can stick it! Award of the week: Elmer

Cabron (dude) of the week: Rasputin and his 13 inch cock.

Babe of the week: Sister Maria
Teacher of the week: The gardener of DICK. Thanks pinche cabron! (That’s spose to be a 101 college text book.)

Thumbs up of the week: President Bush and Obama; Hope is dead and thumbs ups are for bumbling bums.

Best Illegally bought CD of the Week: Miranda Look up Don on Youtube, it’s good.

Ignorace is a hit or miss blessing

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Saturday, January 9th, 2010

Do you think they know what they wear? I saw an unkempt, street wandering man wearing a funny shirt from my window seat on the bus. The shirt read, “my mind wandered away and never came back”.

I was in a Mexican bus with all the jingling of loose screws and bobbing of heads; and of standing men and teenagers gripping semi-stable poles; and of the British flag over the driver; and of a white Jesus on the dashboard; and of the metallic scull that stared back at us from the stick shift. Everyone and thing bounced as the bus roared down Domingo Diez, as if there were no brakes and everyone was insane from the heat and our brains slamming into the roof of the skull.

Domingo Diez was one of the two parallel avenues that ran north to south through Cuernavaca–this was the Westside Avenue. It started in the northwest, where the highway from Mexico City ended, at La Loma de la paz: a statue that adorned the center of a round about, with a dove to represent peach. The avenue then ran into the south. It began in the north where the climate was temperate, and ended in the south, where the environment was humid and hot. From beginning to end, the altitude drops 1500 meters.

As I sat in the bus, I read and reflected that no one would find of any amusement. I sat in my mixed worlds seeing clearly the humor that chance placed on this mans back for English speakers to derive a secret pleasure. Did I feel like a sinner for amusing in this perfect mixture of a shirt’s message and wearer? Should I jump out of this bus and tell this bewildered, cracked out wanderer that his second hand, possibly fourth hand shirt, speaks more accurately of his life than the first consumer from the first world?

The shirt was created to be a joke, and I can simply argue the joke has moved on, progressed, changing hands and countries. Ultimately it found a home where the joke moved out of the superficial realm of humor and into the sad reality of life.

No I didn’t do anything. I decided to enjoy the joke, coldly aware of the world’s way of making fun of its inhabitants.

The District

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Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

He walked through the unfamiliar streets of the district. The darkness concealed what was once familiar. He wished he could spot a landmark. None would be shown for a long time however.

He tried not to make any form of contact, audio or visual, with any of the villainous gremlins he passed. Their seedy motives and pushy nature were not something he could handle in this state.

His short term memory had been lost, like the wind carrying away a puff of smoke. He wished he could be in more able form, it was not like him to be so disabled in such a hostile world. But these were the circumstances and he was willing to do what he could to find his new residence.

He turned down one street, then another, and another. Each had its own canal, its own cobblestone sidewalk and most importantly its own darkness.

Finally he saw his escape. The Grasshopper. When he got there, he knew to turn left and he should be at the front door of salvation.

Ben’s Hotel was his residence for the night and when he entered he knew he had arrived at more than just a hotel. It was his home, his safe-haven. He had exited the grimy, seedy streets of Amsterdam and entered a place that provided him ample comfort to smoke his bounty.

The Crash

Posted by Andrew_Cox

Monday, November 2nd, 2009

This story was written by a friend of ours who has been traveling solo through Europe. We wish him a speedy recovery.

Heidelberg, Germany is famous for its castle, university and scenery. I went there on the suggestion of my mom, who studied and traveled in Germany during her college years. She talked highly of it, much like she did of Salzburg, Austria. Salzburg was my favorite city of my journey so far, so I was very excited to see Heidelberg.

I woke up on the 29th of October well rested. I had just gotten into Heidelberg the night before, from Munich. It was a beautiful day outside: sunny, few clouds and 60 degrees. I ate a hearty breakfast of scrambled eggs, potatoes, bacon and coffee while studying my guidebook. Sure enough, it told me to enjoy the natural beauty of the city by walking or biking across the river, into the forested hills and look down on the city from ‘Philosopher’s Path.’ It also said to check out the University of Heidelberg, Germany’s oldest and most prestigious university. The plan was to do these two things today, and explore Heidelberg Castle tomorrow.

I rented a bike. The friendly man gave me a map and showed me the way to Philosopher’s Path. I biked the zig-zagging streets for about an hour before I reached the top. The scenery was amazing. I could see Heidelberg Castle in the wooded hills beyond the river, looming over the Old Town. The trees were a mix of red, orange, yellow, brown, and green. The sun was so bright it took some of the color out of my pictures, but the view was awesome nonetheless. I biked along the path for another kilometer or so and finally reached the gravel road that led me downhill.

That’s the last thing I remember.

I awoke to two older Germans looking down at me saying, “Don’t move, the ambulance is on its way.” I couldn’t move if I wanted to. Something terrible happened. My vision was blurred. Immediately, shock and panic set in. I didn’t even feel the pain.

“How did this catastrophe happen, am I going to die, if I survive, is my brain damaged?” These and other thoughts raced through my mind. “I hope I’m not just another horrible bike accident statistic.”

This moment was, without a doubt, the most terrifying of my life.

The ambulance pulled up and drove me to the hospital. The older EMT was very calm, talking to me gently. This brings me comfort. The other, younger EMT, is loud and more aggressive in his tone. This disturbs me.

Adrenaline is pumping through my body like never before. The terror in my mind is overwhelming. I am in crisis mode. The future does not look as bright as it did this morning. Why did this happen?

They wheel me into the hospital and put me into the CT scanner. My legs shake and tremble uncontrollably. Finally, one of the doctors notices and puts a warm blanket over me. They pump a warm fluid through my body while I lay in the scanner. After, they wheel me to ER and nurses start bandaging my face. Next, they take a wet towel and wipe the blood from my face and arms.

God, what do I look like?! She has been wiping blood off my face for minutes!

I continue bleeding profusely out of cuts around my right eye even after being bandaged up. Nurses hook IVs into the tops of each hand and in my left arm. Throughout the day and evening, they are continuously pumping IV fluid, pain killers and antibiotics into me. Like every other patient in the ER, I am half man, half machine.

All around me nurses and doctors are working on older people. The woman to the left of me has been unconscious for hours. She is naked and doctors continue to try to keep her alive using various machines, plugged into her nose and mouth and arms and legs. One nurse looks at woman and begins to cry a little before moving onto another patient.

I am still hoping I will be alright. Finally, after they have stitched up the cuts around my right eye and have put me through the CT scanner one more time, one of my many doctor tells me “Herr Peterson, you have 4 fractures in your face. Your right jaw, your sinus, and above and below your right eye. We don’t think you will need surgery though.”

I also suffered a concussion. I can’t bend my right elbow. They tell me my arm isn’t broken or fractured but it might have soft muscle damage. Late that night a man comes to put it in a cast. Later on I find a huge gash on my right shoulder.

I make the hypothesis that I landed face first, then my shoulder hit, and my body crushed my right arm after.

I take pictures of my face with my phone. I look like Two Face. My right eye is almost completely swollen shut. Bandages are above and below it. There are cuts on the right side of my face from my chin past my hairline. Dried blood is all over my forehead and ear and in my hair. There isn’t a scratch on the left side of my face.

I look at one of the nurse’s name tags and it says University of Heidelberg Hospital. I made it to the University. At least I know they’re the best.

I’ve been in the hospital for 4 days now. I’m taking painkillers around the clock. They’ve tested my vision and hearing and so far things are checking out fine. I’m extremely lucky I didn’t have more serious injuries: worse head or neck damage, separated shoulder, missing teeth. It’s sad to say, but I honestly feel like I cheated death.

On my third day I got one expected visitor and one unexpected, yet familiar face. The owner of the hostel I was staying at came by and dropped off some belongings the police forgot to drop off the day earlier. Most importantly my cell phone and Ipod chargers. Finally, I can entertain myself again! He also gave me back 16 euro for the second night at the hostel, and said, “Come by when you get out of here and I’ll give you a free meal and a free night, if you wish.” I thanked him.

The second visitor was a surprise. Friedemann Schulz was his name and I immediately recognized his face. He was the one, with his wife, who had found me laying on the path after my accident. What a nice man he was to come and see me in the hospital. His English was good and he said he saw the accident.

He was walking up the path, maybe a few hundred feet from me when he saw my wheel turn sharply left and my body fly over the handle bars. I landed face first on the gravel and my backpack flew over my shoulders. He made a gesture toward his neck and said, “At first I thought you lost your head!” I sat in my hospital bed, fully captivated.

Friedemann went on to say, “I sent my wife up to help you and I ran down to the neighborhood to call the ambulance because I didn’t have my handi on me. I went to the first house and an old woman came to the door, she looked sleepy, but once I explained to her she immediately let me use the phone.”

He went on to say “The path of the park is blocked by a gate, but the neighbors have a key to open the gate, so she opened the gate to let the ambulance through. The ambulance came very quickly.”

“When I got to you, you looked awful. If I wanted to film a horror movie, I would film you! Blood was all over your face and arms. I didn’t know if you would be okay. I didn’t know if you had a serious neck or spine injury. You awoke, and then passed out again before the ambulance arrived.”

I thanked him so much for his help and shed a few tears, while telling him how lucky I felt not to be dead or have more serious injuries. He reassured me by saying “But all is okay now!”

Friedemann said the police looked at the bike and thought something may have been wrong with the front breaks or front wheel but he could not elaborate more. We talked about my trip and about what he does. He is a cello teacher at the University of Mainz and also plays first cello in the Mainz Philharmonic Orchestra. He studied for one year in Bloomington, Indiana and has a son who is studying architecture in San Francisco. I told him I was interested in teaching and have a brother studying architecture in Minnesota.

Friedemann wished me well said we should get coffee when I get out of the hospital and I gladly agreed. I thanked him again. He said if anything ever happened to his son in America, he would want a stranger to do the same thing and told me to pass the help along if someone ever needs it. He gave me his address, phone number and email. I emailed him shortly after, thanking him and his wife one more time.

When I rented the bike I remember thinking to myself, “There is barely any traction on these tires. They are very bald.” But that was the last I thought of it. Perhaps a combination of high speed, bad traction, loose gravel, and possibly bad/malfunctioning breaks did me in. I’ll never know for sure. It was the first major bike accident of my life. Far and away the most violent moment of my life too, even if I don’t remember it. The wounds on my face tell the story.

Doctors say I should make a full recovery. After four days in the hospital the swelling around my eye has started to subside. I don’t know how long my arm will be in this cast or if I can continue my travels. I still had to see Luxembourg, Paris, Barcelona, Switzerland and Italy.

From now on I will always, always wear a helmet. Its funny, the bike rental man never offered me a helmet, and I never thought to ask. I was on vacation, having the time of my life, an accident surely wouldn’t happen. How wrong I was.

Large News Sucks

Posted by Bellznwhistle

Sunday, October 18th, 2009

I was reading cnn.com this morning and I started thinking about how it was all bullshit news. I don’t care about rare acts of violence that, while shocking, will never happen to me. Most of the violence is choreographed violence anyway. Demonstrators throwing rocks at a wall of police who disperse the crowd through tear gas or clubbing. Where are the pictures of someone struggling to breath as three people stomp on them and shatter bones and teeth? We hear about the horrors of Africa, but no one even bothers to take pictures of how terrible some areas have become there. We are so desensitized to the violence that it really doesn’t matter to us. Much like when we talk about money wasted in terms of billions and trillions lost and owed. Those sums are so large that I have no frame of reference. They are so big, that they have become nothing to me. It’s so ridiculous to talk about trillions of dollars owed because it is so much that it in effect becomes nothing. It isn’t even real money. Its all talking points and theory. There is no way to pay that back/off. If we can’t even crack a dent in the exponential interest, then who really cares or worries about paying it back. It will have to be erased/forgiven, or so other way of repayment will be necessary.

Getting back to the low level of substance in news, I don’t want to know anything about pseudo-celebrity reality stars or movie stars, for that matter. I want to be informed, but reading the newspaper is still more filler, just on a local level. The major news outlets on the right and the left provide the reader with quick sound bites and not much substance. I want to know why. Who decided that the average person needed meaningless events broken down to their most basic concepts? There are even a few quick bullet points at the top of most articles now so you don’t even have to read them! Why bother with the article if those are the only things worth taking from them?

What is the purpose of news? What are some of the things that people think all informed citizens should know? Who says citizens should be informed? Does all this content serve just to give people something to talk about with each other? Just something else besides the weather to talk about? Tell me what you think.

Life of Distractions

Posted by Andrew_Cox

Saturday, October 17th, 2009

Over the weekend I was at a rooftop bar people-watching with a group of friends when a guy at the bar caught my attention.  I only listened for a few minutes while I waited for my drink but his central thesis revolved around the idea that professional sports serve as an opiate for the masses and keep people distracted from “living their lives.”  I wish I had asked what he judged as a valuable use of time. He used sports as his example but it got me thinking that you could substitute any type of activity into his argument and say you were living life through distractions.  But if you can argue that being a super fan of a sports team or voting daily for the next American Idol is a waste of time, then what activities aren’t a waste of time?  Who judges what we deem a valid use of our time?  I thought about giving examples of all the different activities that must serve as distractions but I think I can sum it up by saying anything that anyone feels passionately about or spends a majority of their time doing could count by this guy’s definition.
I only asked the bar philosopher one question.  “Wouldn’t you consider work to be another distraction or opiate since people spend the majority of their days at work?”  He resoundingly concurred.  He said most people hate their job and remain in a state of discontentment because, well, doesn’t everybody?  Most people will conform to societal pressures and never venture past their comfort level, he said, because if everyone acted on their impulses all the time the larger society would crumble.  No one would perform the necessary but undesirable work needed to support our modern society.  I understood the point he wanted to convey, but I should have asked him the difference, in his mind, between living a fulfilling life and losing yourself in the “distractions” along the way.  I suspect he wanted to score debate points with his ideas, which have merit, and lead to interesting questions but I think our choices highlight our individuality.
Ultimately, I don’t think anyone can judge our use of time but ourselves.  If you want to spend your time ensuring your lawn looks immaculate, so be it.  If it provides you satisfaction and happiness then why stop?  If hockey consumes your life, you live and breathe the sport, then good for you.  Obviously people will argue with me by questioning how I can say people should just do what makes them happy.  How hedonistic!  What if killing others makes you happy?  I’m not arguing that people should succumb to each and every whim that enters their mind, but I am saying that we should spend less time worrying about how others spend their time or judging their values, and more time focusing on improving ourselves.  Focus on building relationships with the people that matter in your life and not worrying about what others think.  Who cares what the person at the grocery store thinks or the person on the other end of the phone.  It’s not like they are going to come through the phone and hurt you.  Aren’t we all just searching for something that makes us happy?  To balance the requirements of life such as work and family obligations with the selfish pursuits that excite us and provide fulfilment.  No one will remember how many miles you ran a day or what type of car you drove when you die; they will remember what kind of person you were.  Did you help your friends when they needed you?  Were you honest and tolerant of others or were you the first to get upset, the first to try and hurt others for your own gain?  Were you a person other people liked and wanted to spend time with or were you known as a jerk no one could stand?  So focus on actually living your life instead of worrying about what others think or if you’re spending your time wisely because living a life of worry isn’t really living at all.

Summer Part 2

Posted by Max Peterson

Wednesday, October 14th, 2009

The sun recedes behind a tree.
Cotton floats like bubbles through the air.
The world becomes 2-Dimensional as my drink wears on me.

The moon is nothing but a small faint crescent above me.

The tree’s leaves rustle as if to say “Shhhhh” to me. I can hear the calmness of nature. The furious winters are like a nightmare that leaves a scar. Summer’s warmth is is like a parent’s embrace.

The shade is my cave.
A bird flies to a branch. It flies away. To another branch.

The tree line rises and dips like a stable stock market. Not like now.

The air I breathe is hearty. There is life in it. I see this life all around me.

The beauty of nature inspires life. And so the cycle goes on.

Summer Part 1

Posted by Max Peterson

Wednesday, October 14th, 2009

The flag shakes in the wind.
A bird chirps.
Sun reflecting off my drinking glass into my eye.
The breeze blowing the paper I write my ideas and observations on.

So bright is the sun and the paper that I have my left eye closed as I write this.
The bark on the walnut tree peels.
Scum green algae, suffocating the pond.

America trembles much like the American flag in a summer’s breeze.
Pine tree slumps like a man in the unemployment line.

The sun’s heat is upon. Its a hostile heat. Pushing my mind toward the house. It mocks me. The AC and the sun mock me. The air conditioner. A cool breeze washes away those thoughts.

The sky is a gentle blue. Mario clouds float through their expansive boundaries. The retaining walls built on side of the house, in the 1950’s, are crumbling. A fly landed on my drink’s glass. The willows show which way the wind blows. The Blue Moon label on my drink’s glass directly faces the sun. A standoff… perhaps?

The drink is winning this war. The drank won this war.

…And the word is panic!

Posted by Andrew_Cox

Monday, October 12th, 2009

I was sitting in my apartment the other night, bored, waiting to go to bed and repeat the next day just like the previous one when it hit me: panic. All of a sudden I started thinking about how my own behavior was sealing my future of unhappiness. If I don’t start achieving some measurable progress towards my goals, I am just going to suffocate in my stagnation. What type of dedication and commitment does it take to ignore all the distractions and focus on doing something every day that brings me at least one step closer to the future I envision for myself? If I can’t motivate myself then am I pursuing the wrong things? Shouldn’t I be willing to put in any amount of work if the end goal, or the work itself, stimulates and excites me? There is a huge difference in terms of freedom and creativity working on something you love ten to fifteen hours a day than spending eight hours a day feeling trapped, stifled, and under-utilized. I accelerated my panic by thinking about panicking. Had I wasted my time, energy, and money chasing unrealistic or ill-suited goals? I felt lost, and I have plans for myself. I know many people who are wandering without a clue as to who they are or how they want to spend their time. It reminds me of something the Dali Lama once said:

“It is fascinating. In the West, you have bigger homes, yet smaller
families; you have endless conveniences — yet you never seem to have
any time. You can travel anywhere in the world, yet you don’t bother to
cross the road to meet your neighbors. I don’t think people have become
more selfish, but their lives have become easier and that has spoilt
them. They have less resilience, they expect more, they constantly
compare themselves to others and they have too much choice — which
brings no real freedom.”

That last line really sticks in my mind. Too much choice makes no choice at all. I’ve been told I can do whatever I want since I was a little kid. But I don’t know what I want to do because I can do anything…supposedly. It’s harsh to discover that you can’t always do anything. It seems like life has a great talent for getting in the way of your hard work and plans. This sentiment led a friend of mine into a long and disastrous bout with depression and anger. After he discovered that despite all his best intentions, he wasn’t able to achieve his life-long goal, he gave up on everything. He dumped his fiancée, he quit his job, he pushed away his friends, and he eventually tried to kill himself. It took years for him to change his outlook and start to recover.

How do you cope with stress everyday? How do you keep yourself focused on what you care about? Why does it seem like our own mind conspires against us? How did you achieve your goals or what did you do in the process to ensure you will achieve your goals? Post your thoughts in the comments.

Hey man, check this out

Posted by Max Peterson

Sunday, October 11th, 2009

I’m on sitting at the Bluebird in Amsterdam, a nice little café with great drinks, and I read an article that says web pages like Myspace and Facebook actually increase jealousy when you’re in a relationship with someone because the partner can see who’s flirting with you (wall posts) and can see the pictures of you with other people. One of my roommates in college was caught by his long-distance girlfriend and his campus girlfriend because he wasn’t aware of what they were both writing on his wall and kept his profile open to anyone. My buddy who I live with now has a girlfriend who moved away to go to college and they see each other only when she comes home for breaks. They are constantly texting, tweeting, emailing pictures and little notes about what they are doing to each other. He was complaining to me before I left that he wished they had something online just for each other. Kind of like a collage I guess. So that got me thinking, what about creating a site that is specifically for relationships? It is just for those two people! They can send post messages, pictures, video and websites they only want the other person to see…

It could be marketed to all couples but specifically could be used for long distance relationships or people that have to travel a lot but still want to share their experiences with their loved ones.

Devils advocate…is this not even worth it because we can do all this with cell phones already? Or all the websites that already exist? Is the purpose of a site like this and social networking to have many friends? Not just one? It seems like a lot of people are pushing the quantity of their connections/friends, not necessarily the quality of people within your networks. I was just scanning my Facebook page and I have friends on it who I don’t even know! And it seems like all my family is on it now and I never want them to see half the stupid shit my friends say or some of the pictures of me that get posted.

Another idea…a family website where everyone in the family can upload pictures and videos and connect with relatives in another part of the country…? I actually like that idea quite a bit as it is a means for families to not only embrace technology but to stay up to date with the happens to others on a more frequent basis. I have relatives I only see once a year for a few hours, or less than that. This would be a way to follow family and put up histories of the whole family.

Just spit balling some ideas…what do you think? Would anyone use this? Is something like this stuff already out there?

Just Do It

Posted by Andrew_Cox

Monday, September 21st, 2009

Do you ever experience a moment where you feel as though nothing seems to be working out in your life and you don’t know what to do to make it better?  What if that feeling were to last for weeks, months, or even years?  How can there be people who have never felt satisfied for a majority of their life?  If that’s the case, what has compelled these people to continue down their current path?  Maybe fear of the unknown?  They cannot conceive of anything other than the status quo?  Although they might be miserable in their current situation, at least they can find a small measure of comfort in the familiar and routine.  Right?  This question has come up before many times, applied to many situations.  Why does a person remain in an abusive relationship?  Why do people stay at a job they hate for thirty years?  Why do some people continue to abuse drugs and alcohol at the expense of everything else in their lives until they have nothing and no one left who cares about them?  How does someone get out of seemingly hopeless situations?  Can a reinvention take place in a fraction of a second?  For instance, does the decision to change constitute the beginning of rebirth?  Or does it require more pain and struggle?  Can you only begin to improve yourself once you have hit rock bottom?  Where is rock bottom?  Who measures that?  Or can a conscious decision to change for the better signal the beginning of a new life?  Can the commitment to live each day as if it were your last satisfy the requirements of a successful transformation?  Are all transformations even positive?  How do you maintain momentum?  I believe the solution depends on the person and the circumstances.  For some, they have to destroy their old self before a new person can emerge.  Others might make a much more smooth transition.

U.S. culture has taught society that success is a linear path. Go to school, pay attention, do well, go to a good college, and afterwards, your life will fall into place perfectly.  Once we’ve done that, why should we experience lows when we only deserve the highs?  We are all special.  Everyone has heard and believed the same message regardless of their ability or circumstances.  This mindset has lead to a preposterous belief that we can live uncomplicated, easy lives.  People always seem so surprised when they discover a homeless person and a movie star both feel pain.  Both can have substance abuse problems, problems in their relationships, their careers, or their general mental perspective.

These ideas and questions are important to me but not as important as their answers.  We are all capable of choosing our own path.  Don’t let a misplaced sense of duty, or outright fear keep you from doing what you want to do.  Wouldn’t you rather have the hardship and struggle associated with fighting for what you want rather than struggle for others who don’t appreciate your efforts?  Given the current economic melt down and general uncertainty about the future, most experts are advising people to keep their heads down and ride out this uncertain economic wave before they rock the boat.  I argue that conditions will never be perfect for any decision you wish to make.  Yes, this isn’t the best time to approach your boss and say goodbye, but recognize that nothing lasts forever.  As my father always used to say, anyone can do anything for a year.  Do not hold out for better days or settle for less than you want.  Bold action knows no limits, and men and women of ability won’t compromise their ideals for the whims of others.  Maybe this only works in theory or sounds good on paper but the perfect time to get married, go back to school, or take a vacation will never come.

How do you escape the cycle of unhappiness?  The answer will be different for everyone.  Breaking away from the conformity of the masses serves as a solution to some.  Wouldn’t religion, spirituality or drug use serve as a change for some?  Religion has helped a lot of people for a long time, as many as its hurt probably.  A segment of the U.S. attempted to use drugs as a path to better themselves in the 1960’s.  They tried free love as well.  Both didn’t last.  I want to act.  I won’t passively watch life happen.  I want the courage to do what must be done.  I want to be unrelenting.  I want to become the abstract idea I envision.  I know many others do too.  But how do you start?  Do something, and keep doing until you are on your path and you don’t know anything else.

The Times They Are A-Changin’

Posted by Andrew_Cox

Monday, September 21st, 2009

Think about what isn’t on the internet right now, any type of service. We are heading for a time when, even if something doesn’t seem like it will have a web presence, it will. Eventually, newspapers and magazines will terminate their paper versions and redirect their efforts to bolstering their online presence. It will be cheaper for these companies, and they will be more nimble and interactive. Instead of simply reading an article on any given topic, a reader will be able to see pictures, videos, and read about other people’s experiences along with the main article. It just makes too much sense in terms of reducing costs on materials, production, and transportation. With better technologies emerging everyday such as the Kindle for electronic reading, there will no doubt come a time when even books cease to be made through standard methods.

There will always be purists who claim that we are destroying tradition or precedent. But I look at it more as a form of evolution. More and more people will reach this conclusion once it’s no longer economically, environmentally, or even socially feasible to remain in the past, keeping our eyes closed to progress. Some people have already started to raise complaints about the information overload in our culture, recently citing the rising popularity of services such as Twitter or the destruction of our language and punctuation through texting. Some question the vanity of users on Twitter who feel the need to constantly express how they feel or what they are doing. But the user chooses the amount of connectivity they receive, plus constantly changing your status is only one of many ways a service like Twitter can be used.

Different niches, ideas, slants, organizations, political groups and anything else can maintain a centralized base to express and teach about their cultures and ideas online. No one has to remain at a certain site or even hear a viewpoint they don’t share when it’s one mouse click to leave a site (which is a problem in its own right). With the explosion of new information generated everyday and the almost exponential growth of the internet, the future of information services won’t lie in creating even more information, but in the categorization and classification of the highest quality and most relevant information so people won’t waste their time on erroneous searches. Depending upon how one judges the use of their time, the faster services and products become, the better it is for the individual. If I can save ten minutes from performing one task, then I have added an additional ten minutes to my life which I can choose to spend on something else. The internet has helped immensely in creating that sense of speed which has become engrained in the younger generations. I agree that part of our instantaneous culture is creating problems such as attentiveness in teaching children but we will circumvent these obstacles with new ideas and new growth. Perhaps that is the greatest contribution of the internet thus far: it has allowed for the creation and execution of almost any type of activity or business easily and cheaply. Was anyone talking about podcasting, blogging, or vlogging ten years ago? What will we be talking about ten years from now?

In the current social and business climate, we are experiencing a reset of not only job positions but our understanding of how business is conducted. To remain competitive, companies must look use all the tools available at their disposal and for cost reductions and increased functionality and connectivity, the web represents the future. Why pay millions for a radio or television add when you can specifically target your audience for free where they already congregate online? Rather than attack their competitors for trying to act trendy, companies should try harder to understand long term trends and embrace them rather than ignore what they don’t understand.

Upset the Status Quo or Accept Unhappiness

Posted by Andrew_Cox

Tuesday, August 25th, 2009

I feel like I have tons of ideas.  Ideas about how to improve myself, how to help my friends, and projects that could really improve my work.  My biggest obstacle?  Myself.  We all need rest and to take breaks to refocus our thoughts, but what if we use that as an excuse to never take the necessary actions?  Some days, even some weeks go by and I think to myself, “I had the best intentions but something always got in the way.”  Did it though?  Why does it seem like some people have the capacity to constantly push and focus relentlessly on their goals while others can’t quite seem to get it together?  Obtaining information on anything is so easy and oftentimes we know what we should be doing but choose the easy path or the path others have chosen for us.  For example, a friend spent ten minutes complaining to me the other day about being out of shape and how it was destroying her confidence and she felt terrible all the time.  As we talked she was eating a brownie and snacking on chips.  She has all the information she needs to change her behavior, but lacks the will to act. Dictionary.com defines act as “anything done, being done, or to be done.”  This implies (in my mind) motion and movement, actual progress towards the goals you wish to achieve.  Not thinking, hoping, and dreaming about what you want but taking the dangerous steps to actually act.

Information is abundant.  And at some point the analysis must end and we actually have to implement our plans and ideas.  Even after we choose to act, there is still something that can impede our progress, namely friends and family.  They don’t want to see you hurt or fail so they mistakenly assume they should discourage your dreams.  They explain this insidious reasoning with statements like “I don’t want to see you disappointed” or my favorite, “be realistic.”  (Whatever that means, whose reality?)

I have an old friend named Joey who desperately wants to change his professional life.  He studied hard in school and found a great job after graduation but two years later all he wants to do is play in a band and bartend for some steady cash until he loses the passion for playing or make it big.  His live-in girlfriend of seven years tells him to “follow his passion” and “find his path all the time.”  Whenever they go out she talks about how he would be a great musician, but he knows, just as everyone else does, that she doesn’t really mean it.  She relentlessly talks about their picture perfect wedding and honeymoon, house, and cars.  She wants three children who will need the best of everything.  He knows he’ll be able to afford those things if he continues promoting at his company and she continues to do well at hers.  He is paralyzed by inaction.  On the one had he could achieve his dream and become a rich and famous star, and much more importantly, find happiness by following his passion or he can maintain the status quo.  But he needs to play it safe.  He needs to be realistic.  Why?  He’s afraid to give up the life he has chosen.  The pressure of family and conforming to those around him are overwhelmingly powerful.

The world we live in is a harsh place for a dreamer, especially when those closest to us think they are helping by trying to protect us from failure.  They are of course operating under the assumption that you can’t get hurt or experience failure if you never put yourself out there in the first place.  I don’t want to give up my dreams.  I don’t want to be realistic.  I am beginning to think that when someone tells you to be realistic that means they think you would be better off acting like them.  Why go out on a limb and risk putting ourselves through the danger of trying and failing.  But what is the point of living without trying to live your dreams?  My father had a friend he had known for years and his health had deteriorated rapidly in his mid-fifties.  His doctor told him if he didn’t stop drinking and smoking he would die within a year.  He didn’t even consider quitting.  His rationale? “What’s the point of living if you can’t do a little living?”

Every once in a while when I get bored in a conversation, I’ll sometimes steer the conversation to a question I like to ask people, especially those I don’t know.  I ask what they would do if they were given one hundred million dollars.  What type of work would they want to perform then?  How would they spend their time?  No one would really sleep all day and watch TV late into the night.  After people answer, and many say the same thing, I ask why they aren’t trying to find a way to make it reality.  Nine times out of ten I hear the same excuse.  Money.  I’m certainly guilty of using that as an excuse.  Well I sure would love to do [insert what you want to do] if only I had the money they say.  My question is, do you really need the money to do it?  How much do you actually need?  Could you start to earn a little extra by canceling the cable subscription or the newspaper?  How often to you drink or buy cigarettes and how much are these activities increasing your happiness?  Odds are you don’t need as much money to do what you want as you might think, you just need to get creative.  Steve Wozniak, one of the founders of Apple computers, once said something along the lines of “the greatest things we ever did was when we had never done it before and we had no money.”  That idea should resonate with people much more than it actually does.  It should resonate with me more than it actually does.  Of all the excuses not to act, money serves as the most obvious barrier. But with ingenuity, creativity, and a little luck money should never get in the way of happiness, and let me be clear, money does not equal happiness and I struggle with these just as much as anyone else.  Oh and that catchall response that almost everyone gives me to my one-hundred million dollar question: quit their job and travel.  I know a lot of people can’t step away from the lives to jet-set around the world with a spouse and children in tow but one way or another they chose to follow that path.  So set a schedule a few nights a week in the evenings or whenever to do whatever you want to do but start small.  If you have a family and a million distractions, plan even smarter and start even smaller.  Whatever it is you want to be doing with your time, find a way to begin doing it in even the smallest capacity and let it grow from there.  As I tell people (and I’m trying to tell myself constantly) what’s the worst that could happen?

Instead of settling into the status-quo, spend a week or even a day upsetting the balance.  I want struggles.  I want discomfort.  Hopefully, that way I will always be using my mind the way I was supposed to instead of allowing life to passively occur to me.  Maybe this isn’t the correct advice for a lot, many, or most people.  But it will resonate with some people as it does for me.  Who wouldn’t want to risk a little for happiness?  After all, what’s the worst thing that could happen?